What Is A Doula?

As I look at the young expectant woman sitting across from me I can’t help but smile. Her excitement is contagious. She is so curious, so hungry for wisdom to prepare her for the journey she is about to embark on. Her hands clasp lovingly around her bump of a belly. She is only a few weeks away from meeting her child and the magnitude of it is palpable. I am so grateful and humbled by the vulnerability of the questions she asks. They make me pause to dig deep to find truth and reassurance for her. The time we spend together is always too short, it seems there are always more questions than time. With a lilt of humor I share with her, “From now on, there will always be more questions than time.”

I leave our meeting already excited for the next one. I can’t believe I get to be her Doula.


Up to this point our meetings have been walking she and her husband through the stages of labor. We talk about what to expect, possible complications and navigating this journey in a calm informed way. We laugh, we share, we build a team that is ready for the big day. They may not know it yet, but I can see it. They are ready.

I became a Doula because I want women to know how strong they are. I want to give them the resources and opportunity to live out their ideal birth experience. I want to help them to succeed.

Though I didn’t have a Doula myself, I had women that rallied around me, who helped prepare me for what I knew I wanted and they knew I could accomplish. Women need other women to equip, to affirm and to speak to one another’s womanhood... to call out the best versions of themselves when it matters the most. As a Doula, I get to look a woman in the eye who thinks she can’t and tell her, “You absolutely can.”

Very soon, I will receive the phone call, “Clover, I think it’s time.”

The race has begun and there’s only one way to the finish line.

I will be at the side of that precious woman. Soothing, encouraging, celebrating and joyfully ushering a new baby and new parents into the world.

What is a Doula? A Doula is many things.

  • We are a source of wisdom and comfort.

  • We are a coach to nudge you when you want to give up.

  • We are a holder of sacred space.

  • We speak truth to dispel doubts and fears.

  • And above all, we help you hold on to what is most important to you, in order to achieve the healthiest, most satisfying birth experience possible.

Clover Fasolka